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How to Take Care of Others When You’re Chronically Ill

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It’s a role reversal of sorts. You’re chronically ill but you need to take care of someone else. It isn’t easy, but it can done. And the best part is that there is something transformative about providing care to others – especially when you are accustomed to having someone take care of you.

In spite of its many variations, the common denominator of all chronic illnesses is their persistent nature – their “chronic-ness“. So we learn to accept living in a state of flux. Sometimes we do it with grace. Other times, our approach is decidedly inelegant. After all, we are trying to find our way through a maze whose pathways lead to barriers we can’t anticipate.

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The Best Advice No One Ever Gave Me

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Living with a serious or life-changing illness forces us to learn to cope with a constant state of uncertainty. I have three crucial pieces of advice. It’s the best advice that no one ever gave me, and I want to share it with you.

I celebrated a pretty big milestone this week. My fifteenth birthday. Technically it’s a “rebirth” day because fifteen years ago I received a stem cell transplant that saved my life and ultimately cured me of an aggressive form of non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma, a cancer of the lymphatic system.

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Emotional Eating – It’s Not Just About the Food

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Have you ever heard the expression “eating your emotions”? Emotional eating isn’t simply about what you’re consuming. In fact, it’s more about the reasons why you’re doing it.

I’ve had chocolate cake three days in a row. And more than one piece per day. But it’s not just any chocolate cake. It’s a heavenly marriage of buttercream frosting laced with crushed Oreo cookies thickly slathered between layers of moist cake. Did I mention that it’s crowned with chocolate ganache?

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The Easiest Way to Declutter with Chronic Illness

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Ready to part with all of the stuff that you don’t need? Don’t make it harder than it needs to be. Here’s the easiest way to declutter when you’re chronically ill.

There are bones on my dining room table. One is a humerus, I think. Or is it a tibia? In either case, they look like clutter to me. But I can’t get rid of them.

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A Simple Plan for Decluttering with Chronic Illness

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Are you overwhelmed by all of your stuff? Are you ready to simplify and get your house in order? If you’re not sure where to start, I have what you need: a simple plan for decluttering.

I’d be lying if I said I own too much stuff. Because the truth is that it owns me. Our stuff is like that, isn’t it? We allow it – we actually invite it – into our homes. And we coexist quite happily until we just don’t need each other anymore. But like a bad relationship that we just can’t bring ourselves to end, we hang onto it.

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Four Big Mistakes that Chronically Ill People Make

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Our lives are fraught with missteps and mistakes. Here are a few of the big mistakes that chronically ill people make.

I’m stuck. You probably know the feeling – the ongoing sense of being completely trapped at worst, or at best, feeling suspended in a state of inertia. I’m not moving backward but I’m sure as hell not moving forward.

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How to Stop the Sabotage of Negative Self-Talk

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Living with a chronic illness can predispose us to negative self-talk. It can be hard to prevent our limitations – real and perceived – from changing how we see and value ourselves.

I don’t know anyone who claims to be immune to the potential ravages of negative self-talk. We all do it – although not necessarily to the same degree. Self-doubt, self-loathing, self-consciousness, self-deprecation – I could go on. But I’m guessing you know exactly what I’m talking about.

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The Pitfalls of Prednisone: Surviving the Side Effects

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It’s widely prescribed and can be wonderfully effective. But the side effects can be wicked. Here are some tips for surviving the side effects of prednisone.

Have you ever taken prednisone? If you have a chronic illness or autoimmune disease that is inflammatory in nature – as so many are – you probably have. And taking prednisone is like balancing precariously on a double-edged sword somewhere between gratitude and madness.

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Half Full: The Hidden Upsides of Chronic Illness

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I never anticipated that I’d find the hidden upsides of chronic illness. If you dig a little deeper you’ll find them, too.

Have you ever been asked if you’re a “glass half empty” or “glass half full” type of person? I’ve never thought of myself strictly in terms of being optimistic or pessimistic. I choose to think of myself as realistic.

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Parenting with Chronic Illness: What you Should Know

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Parenting with chronic illness presents unique emotional and physical challenges. But there are things we can do to help our children – and ourselves – thrive in spite of our illness.

I’m not the mom I’d hoped I’d be. I have – more than once – allowed myself to re-examine the past. And I wonder how I might have parented differently if I hadn’t been ill.

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Three Simple Ways to Offend a Chronically Ill Person

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Family and friends mean well. But sometimes their efforts to make us feel better actually make us feel worse. Here are the top three things not to say to a chronically ill person.

I struggled with the title of this post. I could have gone so many different directions! From the decidedly diplomatic “What Not to Say to Someone who is Chronically Ill” to the definitively assertive “How to Completely Alienate Your Chronically Ill Friend or Family Member in Three Easy Steps.”

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The Surprising Link Between Pets and Our Health

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Pets enrich our lives, and there’s a proven connection between pets and our health. But do you know the science behind it?

It occurred to me that for the past thirty years I’ve never been without a pet. From the sweet brown tabby cat I adopted from a shelter in 1990 to our current trio of furry companions, animals have been a constant in my life.

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